Dear Sasha- Equipment Check

Dear Sasha,

All of this talk about sex toys in the bedroom is making me mad. Don’t you realize that it makes guys feel like we aren’t doing our job if you need to bring in a fake piece of equipment that we have been blessed with naturally? What’s the deal?

Fully equipped,
Joe Shmo from Idaho

Dear Joe,

Let me start by saying that I’m sure your piece of equipment is very satisfying, and I have no doubt that you know how to create a great motion in the ocean, regardless of the size of your boat.

However, I am here to help you give the woman you are with the most mind blowing sexual experience, ending in orgasm EVERY time, that will make YOU someone she can’t forget. Doesn’t that sound appealing?

Although I realize that some guys may be threatened by the idea of bringing a vibrator into the bedroom, I also realize that as a woman, achieving orgasm during sex is not the easiest task.(Remember the 32% statistic? Yea, that’s real) And this has NOTHING to do with how great or terrible a man is in bed, it simply has to do with our anatomy.

The clitoris has far more nerve endings than the vaginal walls, which explains why a lot of women achieve orgasm during masturbation far more frequently than they do during straight penetration. In fact, the clitoris has as many nerve endings as a man’s penis.

I know, I know, I can already hear it. “But Sasha, I DO spend a lot of time on the clitoris. I have magic fingers.”

While I can appreciate a man who gives the clit the respect it deserves, I also know that sometimes it is hard to do everything at once. Trust me, at the end of the day, your woman is not going to remember the sex toy that was in bed; She is going to remember the most intense orgasm she has ever had, the one that YOU gave her.

The best analogy I gave to a male friend of mine who agreed with Mr.Shmo, was that refusing to bring a sex toy into bed is limiting your options, just as you would if you found one beer you liked when you first started drinking, never to try anything else again. There are many kinds of beers out there that would enhance your beer drinking experience, and by sticking to the first one you ever tried, you are harming yourself in the end. (Do not try and use this analogy on the next person you get bored with, I did not create it for that reason. HA)

Remember, I am writing this blog to help you, not harm you. I’m sure there are women out there who have no desire to bring a sex toy into bed. (I would have to use the beer analogy on them too!) This is a blog for the women out there who DO want to enhance their sexual experience, but run into men who let their ego overpower their desire to pleasure.

Wouldnt you rather be the Joe Shmo who was all about getting her off, a real giver if you will, than the guy who let his feelings of inadequacy get in the way? That is the man that a woman will remember. It exudes confidence, care, and deserves a great amount of gratitude. (Which it will get, you watch)

Thanks for writing in Joe, I know you are the voice of many men out there.

How do you feel about sex toys in the bedroom? Leave a comment below and voice your opinion! I’d love to hear what you think, even if you want to tell me to fuck off!

Cheers!

Sasha

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